1951 - 2008 (57 years)
||Lynn Abeling Carey |
||09 Apr 1951
||14 Apr 2008
||Dover, New Hampshire
||Abeling Family Tree
||18 Oct 2008 |
||Albert William Abeling, b. 27 Jan 1920, Cleveland, Cuyhoga County, Ohio , d. 10 May 1997, Fort Pierce, Florida (Age 77 years) |
||Doris Geraldine Anderson Abeling, b. 10 Jan 1923, Cleveland, Cuyhoga County, Ohio , d. 05 Oct 2002, Limerick, Ireland (Age 79 years) |
- DOVER ; Lynn Abeling Carey passed away on April 14, 2008, surrounded by her loving family.
Lynn was born April 9, 1951, in Cleveland, Ohio. It was in Ohio that Lynn met her beloved husband, partner, and best friend, Charles Dallas Carey. Together, they had two children, Elizabeth Grace Carey Caverly and Dallas William Carey.
Lynn and Charles spent time in Ohio and Connecticut before moving to Dover, N.H. in 1987. Lynn earned her Master of Science in Family Studies from UNH. While gaining experience in many jobs in many places, Lynn's passion was working for those who needed her vast experience and her voice.
As assistant director for the Dover Welfare Office and welfare director for the city of Rochester, Lynn worked tirelessly to meet the needs of those who came to her office. Her vision and expertise were highly respected among her colleagues and friends.
In addition to her husband and children, Lynn is deeply mourned by her sister and brother-in-law, the Rev. Roland and Joyce Klauck, as well as by her brother and sister-in-law, William and Pam Abeling; her son-in-law, Bob Caverly, her mother-in-law, Rosemary Carey, and her brother-in-law, Chris Carey, as well as three nieces and two nephews.
She was predeceased by her parents, Albert and Doris Abeling.
Lynn's ability to capture people with her eyes and infectious laugh remain a legacy among her many dear friends, who mourn her along with her family.
A memorial service to celebrate Lynn's life is planned for Saturday, April 19, at 3 p.m. at Holy Trinity Lutheran Church in Newington, N.H., with visiting hours from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. at the church and a reception to follow.
- Late welfare director remembered for her kindness
By ADAM D. KRAUSS
Article Date: Thursday, April 17, 2008
Lynn Abeling Carey
ROCHESTER — To the people she helped over a three-decade career in social services, Lynn Abeling Carey gave hope to the hopeless.
To her family, she gave them her mind, and them some.
"She always had a lot of ideas and she always wanted to make sure they were heard," her daughter, Elizabeth Caverly, recalled Wednesday.
One of the last memories Elizabeth has of her mother came last week, just a few days before the Rochester welfare director lost her six-month battle with pancreatic cancer.
She died at her Stark Avenue home in Dover on Monday night.
"She fought as much as she could," Elizabeth said.
Lynns family — Elizabeth, 26, her son Dallas, 23, and husband of 32 years, Charles — decided it was best to move her bedroom to the first floor so she could have better access to things in the house.
To know Lynn means to know she loved redecorating — not the type that required new furnishings or a spending spree, family said, just some renovations to keep things fresh.
It was no different on this day.
"She wanted to help direct us," Elizabeth said, "but at that point it was difficult."
While her family moved things around, Lynn would say, "I don't know about that," her daughter recalled through laughter.
Lynn, who worked in Rochester for seven years and Dover for several years before that, began to succumb to the illness over the last two weeks and the family decided to end chemotherapy. It wasn't helping.
Lynn and the family moved to Dover in 1987, and she immediately fell in love with the place. She could often be seen around town, sometimes out for breakfast or enjoying her garden, where a patio brought her to an oasis of perennials, peppers, cucumbers, broccoli, herbs and zucchini.
"We enjoyed eating salads from our garden," Charles said. "Right up to the last week, she always enjoyed that."
Remembered as an optimistic, loving, faithful and always-smiling person, Lynn's sense of social justice propelled her to get involved in political campaigns.
When she wasn't helping the area's struggling class, Lynn loved the views from the hills around town, hiking the mountains and taking in the beach, family said.
Early in her New Hampshire career, Lynn worked as a case manager and counselor for a mental health organization and before that for Rockingham Community Action.
Lynn was a native of Cleveland, Ohio, and she went to work for a home for troubled adolescent girls when she was in her 20s.
"She loved working for people who were in need," her husband said.
Lynn maintained one of the busiest schedules at City Hall, but she always made time for the public. In her office hung a painting of the Eiffel Tower that she purchased from a street vendor in Paris.
A memorial service will be held at the Holy Trinity Lutheran Church in Newington at 3 p.m. on Saturday.
- She died of pancreatic cancer.